This week, I had one of those days when I felt overwhelmed because there were so many things I wanted to do, but that I didn’t do. It made my day feel uncomplete. Just not long ago, I told Timon that I already feel so busy, and I can’t imagine what it will be like when we’ll have kids. How can we possibly achieve a balanced life?
While I asked myself this question, another one emerged: But what does it mean to have a balanced life? The first answer that automatically popped out of my mind was being able to equally distribute my time between work and personal life. This question is not only applicable to women with a job and kids. It applies to all of us. How do you balance school work with a part-time job? Or time spent with your friends and significant other? After much reflection, I realize it’s not just my time at work and at home that I want to balance. It’s more a question of balancing my priorities since there are so many things I want to accomplish.
If I ask someone “how can I balance all of this? Perhaps that person would tell me to prioritize my priorities (is there such a thing?) and choose two or three most important ones on the list and drop or postpone the others. It’s a valid response, and trust me, I dropped many priorities, and even with just the top three, I still feel unbalanced. There are weeks when I feel I haven’t allocated enough time in a certain area of my life while I’ve spent too much time in another one. And it made me wonder “Does life balance really exist?”. Or is it a term invented by the media? I saw so many women magazines and online articles about achieving a “balanced life” with tips and tricks given by women fulfilling many roles (i.e. Ivanka Trump & Michelle Phan) that it made me ponder whether or not it is attainable.
I think the answer to this question is really personal, and it’s different from one person to another. For myself, having a balanced life is to have time for a break; alone time with myself to reflect while enjoying a cup of tea. If I can have an evening alone, meditating and pausing, I’d feel balanced.
How do you define a balanced life? Do you feel that your life is balanced? I’m curious to know. Share by commenting below! 🙂
Anna Lou Chen
photography by Ravi Kalsi